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Milso stands for Military Significant Other.
Yay ! :D Good for you!! Hope you have a wonderful time :)
I was in your situation last deployment. While my husband was deployed his grandfather passed away, after being put on an emergency hold for 4 days and not a single word being passed on to him, they finally told him that they weren’t going to let him come back to the states. He was heartbroken, and very depressed and i honestly didn’t know what to do to help him cope. I felt useless and I was very upset that I couldn’t do anything about it. But obviously i couldn’t show him I was upset or sad because he needed me more than ever, I needed to be the strong one in this situation in order to give him strength. Every time he would call i would find ways to cheer him up, have random conversations & also get him to talk about his emotions just so he wouldn’t bottle them up. Everyday I would send him a motivational message just so when ever he had a chance to get on his fb he’d see it and make his day better. And I’d always remind him how much i love him and he means to me, and that everything always gets better. We tend to feel so useless at times like this because we know how bad they need us and we’re a zillion miles away and theres so much we can do but honestly, just be positive and be strong for him. Because when he is at his weakest you have to pick him up. :)
To the anon that submitted a question about their SO deploying and wanting to know how to reach out to them while deployed, the question will not be posted bc even though you did not mention locations, you mention month times. Remember OPSEC please :)
But to answer your question
Deployments are hard and each deployment is different and communication varies. Definitely make sure you send him care packages, you can include letters in them and such. If he’s able to, he can call you. If he has wifi access, he can always take his laptop or an ipad or device and you guys can email, facebook, SKYPE, OOVOO. Facetime etc. there will be times where you probably won’t hear from him but don’t get discourage everything will be okay and every day that goes by will be a day closer to being in his arms :) stay strong & keep busy! You’ll get through it and we’re here to help you ❤️
Everyone deals with deployments in different ways. When my husband left last year I feel like i took it like a champ. He literally left the day of my job interview, did I shed a tear? No. Was i sad ? FUCK yes. I went in that room, rocked that interview and got the job. Of course some days I’d missed him terribly and end bawling my eyes out. But most of the time I was ok. I was busy, I worked, worked out, hung out with friends and did things just as I would if he would’ve been there. And now with this new deployment I’m preparing myself to be the same way. Some people cry everyday, some cry whenever they just miss them too much, etc… Others just won’t cry and go on like nothing. Doesn’t mean anything bad. We all just have different ways of coping with things, some of us have stronger backbones than others. But its all OKAY :)
I’d say if you’re worried of all those things that eventually will benefit your future, you should just finish your degree. I know your anxious to finally end the distance and be married but your future is also important. Or maybe you could see if you could transfer somewhere where he is stationed and continue on with your education. I feel thats really important and you should definitely get it done.
So how is everyone?
Let me just say my life is pretty hectic and I don’t have the time for anything nowadays. Boohooo
Buut I’m doing great, dealing with this extremely hot weather lol.
Well congratulations to you guys! Good luck in telling your parents & your new life as wife & husband. :) Lots of blessings your way.
Hey doll! I think what you are experiencing is quite common. It’s normal for people who see their friends and family join the military to get bit by the enlisting bug and want to join. I know it can be difficult to imagine life seperated from your SO, but imma bout to hit ya with some hard core truth, ya ready?…
Your boyfriends life is his life. And his decisions are his own. It’s a bit selfish of us as our boyfriends partners to ask them not to do something they really want to do just because it means being apart from them. It isn’t always easy being supportive of something that means change. But as a friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, family member, or whatever it is, it is our job to support our pal in whatever it is their heart desires.
It wont be easy, but just think about how you would want your boyfriend to react if you wanted to do something great for yourself.
Hope this helps.
Its difficult, its tough, its hard, its everything you think it is, its unexpected. But you know what else, you’re friends are right, you’ll be fine. Because yes, it is hard and it may feel impossible at times, its not. Eventually, things start to fall into their place and slowly you start getting used to the idea of the situation. You just have to be strong, and the both of you have to be WILLING to work together no matter what in order to keep the relationship alive. Communication is key. Yes, theres going to be days where you won’t hear from him at all, maybe weeks, maybe months. But that little hope of knowing that once its over you’ll hear from him again or see him, its what should keep you going. You’ll be okay. And just know that you’re not alone, theres many many others like you and we are here for you!! ❤️
I’m good, been busy with alot of work and preparing for yet another deployment >.
I’m pretty sure they do! Call USPS Package Supply Center at 1-800-610-8734 & they’ll deliver you the things :)
Its hard to date anyone in the military no matter what branch. Theres going to be alot of hard times, but its not impossible. If the both of you are willing to work through it all and stick it through everything will be fine. Just takes alot of work, but it can work! :)